“Defining myself, as opposed to being defined by others, is one of the most difficult challenges I face.” ~Carol Mosely-Braun

December 7th, 2011

In December 2011, the Lyman Conservatory at Smith College had an art exhibit of Dan Ladd’s molded gourds–not moldy gourds like you might find in my refrigerator, that’s not art that’s science.

These tiny fledgling gourds were unknowingly made to grow in a mold shaped by the artist. The result: gourds that resembled cars, plumbing fixtures, and even human bodies. Beautiful, yet sad to witness; they were not allowed to grow into their natural shape and size, free of constraints. Nature’s free expression was once again harnessed by man.

A popular expression now is, “Do you!” meaning, follow your dreams, not those of another. Follow your heart, not the expectations of others.

Sometimes as we grow into adulthood and try to figure out who “you” is; it can be difficult to hear our own voice or the beat of our own drum. Our parents try to shape and mold us to a degree (or to get a degree). Peers and lovers do the same.

Most of us are raised to please others, to be considerate of others’ feelings, to be polite and practice self-restraint. But where in the sand do we draw the line?  How do we balance all that with “Do you!”

Here are some pointers in that direction. And, btw, where you are today is just fine. Ask yourself and think about:

  • What makes you joyful?
  • What are you especially good at?
  • What makes you laugh?
  • What awakens your heart and gets you going?
  • What are you curious about?
  • What mysteries do you want to solve?
  • What is your unique gift to the world?

Don’t grow in a mold shaped by someone else. Be YOU! Be gourd-eous!


One Response to ““Defining myself, as opposed to being defined by others, is one of the most difficult challenges I face.” ~Carol Mosely-Braun”

  1. Erica on December 7, 2011 1:33 pm

    “Do you” is also used on The Jersey Shore. I think I like your spin MUCH better ;)I love the question “what awakens your heart?”

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